Why families are no longer important

The concept of families has changed over time. And no only the concept, but the perception of family, that is why it tends to be a really sensitive topic.

The family is the nucleus of civilization and the basic social unit of society.

There are several types of revolutions that produced what is called: Demographic Winter

Divorce revolution, inaccurate assumptions, and prosperity are some of the reasons why the population keeps declining.

"The phrase demographic winter refers to what happens when human populations are unbalanced - with too few children being born, and the elderly living longer. The effect goes well beyond mere numbers"

Inaccurate Assumptions

How many of us have heard about climate change due to the increase in population? or that the overpopulation is killing us?

We should look at the numbers before getting a conclusion like that. It is usually not what you might think.

We certainly have to do with the world's climate.

"But the problems we are having aren't strictly speaking the result of population increase, it is instead of changing in the way people live"

"Wait until you are ready"

This is one of the most significant WHYs of not to have a family or why to postpone it.

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Wait until being ready not only applies to have children, but it applies in marriage as well. People prefer to cohabit rather than getting married.

People prefer to not have any label or any tie to the other person, in order to have "freedom"

Even though it seems great, cohabitation before marriage has been associated with greater odds of divorce.

People suggest that it is important to postpone marriage, birth... until having a degree, having a house, having enough money to pay for the future child's fund for college, etc.

Abortion, birth control, and giving in adoption have been some of the considerations to keep this way of living and "wait".

I am not saying that waiting is bad. Instead, waiting is a good way of preparation.

Yet, are we really "ready" at some point?

I don't think we can be completely prepared for an event like this. It is so different than any other experiences that I believe one should live it to certainly know.

Divorce revolution.

Starting after 1969 when Ronald Reagan accepted as law the "No-Fault divorce"

"This is known a divorce where it is not required for any party to show a petition with evidence of wrongdoing"

That new law brought to our days from A to Z reasons why people file for divorce.

Showing that in terms of "I want a divorce because this is not what I expected" and "I can't stand his habits" or many other reasons that can be treated with a specialist, are no big deal if a party decides to divorce.

Prosperity

As countries and individuals began to prosper, the desire of having families change.

It is shown that the people who can best provide are less interested in having kids; people who cannot afford them are the ones with big families.

However,

People usually need a reason to have children.

That is why some countries offer cash bonuses, "baby bonus" for having more children. Russia, China, Australia and some other countries that were affected by the demographic winter. For instance, to "make it up" they decided to offer a monetary reason to have kids.

Does having family matters at this point?

Marriage and family are not "trendy" anymore. "Young people are viewing marriage as a loss rather than as a gain"

"The family is ordained of God. Marriage between man and woman is essential to His eternal plan. Children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony, and to be reared by a father and a mother who honor marital vows with complete fidelity. Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ"

"...men are, that they might have joy."

There is nothing that could bring more happiness to a person than a long-lasting marriage and quality family time, researchers showed.

"God’s commandment for His children to multiply and replenish the earth remains in force."

President Brigham Young said,

“There are multitudes of pure and holy spirits waiting to take

tabernacles, now what is our duty?—To prepare tabernacles for

them; to take a course that will not tend to drive those spirits

into the families of the wicked, where they will be trained in

wickedness, debauchery, and every species of crime. It is the

duty of every righteous man and woman to prepare tabernacles

for all the spirits they can.”

It is important to notice that a family cycle where had violence, abuse, addiction or other types of issues; can break.

You should be aware that there are ways for you to have a good family relation. Therapy is one that I found the most helpful for our family. Recreational activities, family discussion, and some others could help you and others around you.

Once I was talking to my mom regarding this issue in our family. I will never forget what she wisely said to me: "Now that you discern that problem, you can break the pattern or you can follow it.

The decision is on your hands"

At that time, I was able to decide to find a solution or to keep my "destiny" and marry an aggressive man with who I was not going to enjoy marriage.

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And here I am, happily married to a gentleman who has taken care of me since we met.

Yes, we discuss. Yes, we differ. And YES we love each other.

I really hope you can keep the have faith in families, in love and in yourself. Because I do..!